You have a crush on a girl. She’s beautiful, she’s sexy, and you want so badly to have sex with her but you’re dumbfounded as to how to do it. She’s a little out of your league but you’re determined to make it happen. Lucky for you girls aren’t like guys; they’re motivated by more than looks and you can get her interested in you and seal the deal if you do it with skill.

Try and think from the girl’s perspective for a moment. If she’s beautiful and sexy then she could likely have almost any guy she wanted (men are pretty simple when it comes to ladies: they want to sleep with the hottest girl they can get). Why would she want you if that’s the case? If you approach her in the same way every other guy does you don’t stand a chance. You need to stand out from the crowd but you don’t need to do it in the overly nasty, woman-hating way the PUA guys pick up chicks.

The bottom line is that if she’s out of your league you need to act as if that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Sure, she might be better looking than you but you have lots going for you that she can’t see simply by looking at you. There are many common mistakes guys make when trying to bag a super hot chick. Here are some:

– Fawning over her like she’s God’s gift to men
– Asking her endless questions to keep the conversation going
– Constantly complimenting her
– Offering to buy her things or do favors for her
– Generally acting desperate and pathetic

Even if a woman really does want sex, no woman in the world wants to be with a pathetic, desperate, fawning loser that is so dumbfounded by her beauty that he forgets she’s a person. So how do you convince a girl like that to sleep with you if none of the above behavior works? Follow the tips below.

Tip #1: Less history, more mystery. Guys often make the mistake of talking constantly and oversharing to convince a girl to sleep with them. Don’t do that. If you’re going to hold her attention you need to withhold a little. Almost everyone likes talking about themselves and women love a man that listens, so direct the conversation back to her over and over. Ask her questions that go beyond the simple stuff like where she works, hobbies, etc. When she asks you questions you should answer honestly but don’t give away much information.

Tip #2: Be unusual. This can be misinterpreted, because I don’t mean you should be weird. I mean you should take the road less traveled in your interactions with her. Every girl wants to be complimented but a beautiful girl doesn’t need to hear endless verbal vomit about how hot she is. You should say it once and then you should figure out what she never gets complimented on and hit that. Listen as she talks and she’ll share her insecurities with you. The compliments you deliver should be designed to soothe her insecurities and boost her confidence (even beautiful women have self confidence issues). Do that and you’ll be significantly elevated in her mind and more likely to get laid.

Tip #3: Project the best version of yourself. This seems so simple but so many guys mess it up. Drop any sort of self-directed cynicism or self loathing you might possess and replace it with confidence. You’re really good at your job and likely to be promoted soon. You love your family. You have great friends. You’re smart, funny, charming, and great in bed. Life is great and optimism is the only approach. If you believe all of those things or can at least pretend you do you will automatically be more attractive. You will emanate sexiness that she will be instantly drawn to.