When you’re in a friends with benefits relationship it can be a minefield. You never really know how she feels about anything because part of making that relationship work is not talking about feelings. You might think it’s all going perfectly well and she could be simmering with anger, jealousy, and so much more. It’s a delicate thing to maintain and it gets far more complicated if you decide to take on multiple relationships of this type. Why wouldn’t you though? If you could have one regular sex partner why not try and have two, three, or more? Hopefully the tips below will help you make those relationships work.

Never Admit To Seeing Another Girl – In a perfect world a girl in a friends with benefits relationship wouldn’t get jealous, but we don’t live in a perfect world. Despite her best efforts, she might get exceptionally jealous if she finds out that you’re sleeping with someone else. She might also just get angry since you’re exposing her to potential diseases by banging two or three girls at the same time. That’s why it’s best to admit nothing. If she asks you outright tell her that you’re not in a committed relationship with her but that you’re not sleeping with someone else at the moment.

You Are Not Her Boyfriend – Friends with benefits relationships get messy when emotions get involved, grow strong, and become impossible to break without pain. You can avoid much of that by refusing to act like a boyfriend, which in turn builds the emotional feelings. Don’t send her mixed signals. If you’re interested in sex then that should be the only thing you’re interested in. If she mentioned a tough day at work the last time you slept together, don’t text her about it the next day. Keep your calls to a minimum and don’t talk for long. Don’t ask her out to breakfast if she stays the night. You can’t blame a girl for developing emotional feelings when you’re giving her signals that it’s okay to do so. If you want a friends with benefits relationship you need to make it all about the sex. Plus, if you’re juggling multiple girls you aren’t going to have spare time to do any of that stuff.

Learn to Cut the Cord – One of the keys to juggling multiple friends with benefits relationships is to jettison a girl anytime she starts to develop feelings (or if you start to develop feelings for her). This can be difficult to do since you’ll likely still be having great sex with her, but if you don’t cut it off before it gets too deep you’ll have a real mess on your hands. If she tries to push things beyond the sexual you should remind her what your relationship is. If she tells you she wants something more or she continues to push beyond the sexual it’s time to end it. If you’re going to make this kind of thing work you have to be a little bit ruthless. It will feel bad sometimes but it feels a lot worse when she gets really close and you have to dump her because you’re only interested in sex.

Make Sure You’re Great at Sex – Being great at sex ensures you a steady stream of friends with benefits relationships. Being great at sex largely means paying attention to her knees, whatever they may be. Be confident enough to ask her outright what she wants and give it to her. Some girls want it soft and gentle, some want it rough, some want a little of both. Find out and deliver.